What is the worst that could happen if you give sage, unhelpful interview feedback to internal employees?

These videos are supposed to be a funny take on bad leadership, but it’s a bit sad that this video is based one of the most common ways employees receive feedback from internal interviews.

What is the worst that could happen if you give sage, unhelpful interview feedback to internal employees?

What would it take for you to demand more from your place of work?

We all like to think of ourselves as people who would stand up for our rights… people who would demand more from our places of work if they treated us poorly.

We tell ourselves that our values and beliefs would cause us to act… to seek something better.

But in reality do we?

I mean how many people do you know who are dissatisfied with their jobs? It is likely you yourself are dissatisfied. A recent forbes study found that 57% of people are…

How many people do you know who complain about their rubbish boss? The stats say that 44% of people will be in this position.
How many people do you know that have been a part of a company restructure in the last 10 years? A restructure being the most aggressive threat a company can give to its employees… If you work for a business that is on the stock market, then you will have over 80% chance of being involved.

How many people do you know, that in the last few years, haven’t had a pay increase the same as inflation? In the UK in 2017 the average annual pay increase was 1% below inflation… so that’s pretty much everyone!

How many people do you know, that have had their bonus potential reduced or removed? 43% of company’s have negatively adapted their bonus schemes…

It doesn’t have to be this way…

 

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How to play to your potential

So many of us want more from our lives…
We know there is more…
We know we can be more…

Yet we fail to live to our potential. We compromise. We take what we have rather than reaching for more.

Here is why that should never be the case anymore:

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There is a secret science to talent… want to know it?

The highest performers in the world have loads of it…

The rest of us… significantly less…

But you CAN have it, there is a science to what we call talent & it is not what you think:

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How to make a positive impact on everyone you meet

I always used to get very anxious about wanting to make a good impression with everyone I met.

My anxiety made me nervous, sleepless and stopped me being my natural self.

Then I learnt about the tactics I share in this video… They REALLY helped me and maybe they can help you improve your impact with others also (even if your don’t suffer from anxiety)

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The uncomfortable (but powerful) truth of being able to show vulnerability

When we see vulnerability in others, we are drawn to it… we support it and we even follow it.

Yet when we think of showing vulnerability ourselves, we shudder at the thought. We believe it makes us weak.

Being able to be vulnerable has real power… in life and leadership… here is why (inspired by Brene Brown):

 

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The uncomfortable truth of why some people in your team have a bad attitude.

So often I hear managers tell me that “they need to get rid of the people with a bad attitude”

It is also common to have entire business’s tell people “they need to get on the bus”

It is so easy to blame the attitude of our team and our employee’s on them… THEY need to change, THEY have the bad attitude…

As leaders, we need to think differently… we need to ask WHY and then create solutions:

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Stress is literally killing us – here are 4 simple ways to reduce it.

Stress – It doesn’t need an introduction.

It is spreading around the world like an epidemic… The chances are you have been affected by it in your life… Almost all of us have.

High levels of stress release a hormone called Serotonin in your body.

This hormone creates the ‘fight or flight’ sensation – It is a part of our biology, so when we are presented with real danger, our bodies and mind are ready to fight off the danger or run away from it. It was only designed to be used infrequently and in moments of life threatening danger.

This hormone, when activated, switches off all none essential functions in your body.

Here are some of the things that get switched off when you feel stressed:

Your immune system
Your creativity
Your digestive system
Your memory retrieval
Your physical growth

As you can clearly see, these elements are critical factors in the long-term ability to be a healthy human being.

When we understand that high stress causes high levels of Serotonin to be pumped through our bodies, all of the time, it’s easy to identify why stress is literally killing us.

“No amount of anxiety can change the future. No amount of regret can change the past.”

Karen Salmansohn

If you, like me, have been affected by stress, here are 4 simple ideas that can help:

Remove yourself from the situation

imagesThe power of physically removing yourself from the situation and going for a walk… in nature if possible…. cannot be underestimated. The act of getting away, even just for half an hour, acts as an emotional and intellectual reset.

Give your brain some air and some space.

The fact of the matter is your brain can answer any question you give it… what you need to do is ensure you are asking the right questions. When you are in the moment, with all the stress factors surrounding you, it is difficult to know what the right questions are… never mind try to answer them.

Go for a walk in nature. Give your mind some time, space and air. Just enjoy the experience. When you return, you will feel less stressed – therefore will have ‘switched on’ those internal systems you need, like creativity.

Here is my challenge to you – if you think this strategy is just wishful thinking or that you don’t have the time – then test it… go for a one hour walk in nature today… what have you got to lose?

If I am right… imagine what you might gain.

Focus on what is REALLY important

Stress, in the main, is caused by lots of little things that all feel very urgent.

We often mistake urgency for importance and therefore are bound to feel stressed, because pretty much everything is urgent these days!

There is a theory that 20% of the tasks you have to do in any given situation, will deliver 80% of the results you desire. So… if you have a ‘To-Do list’ of 10 actions, 2 of these will deliver 80% of the results you want… leaving the other 8 actions with only 20% of the outcome you need.

Do you know what the 20% of important actions are in your life? Because when you do, and once you take action on them, 80% of your stress will be removed.

Take some time out to figure out what is the most important 20% in your life – then start taking action towards these things first.

Take action, even when you don’t feel like it

“There is just so much to do…. I don’t know where to start.”

I hear this so often when working with people under high levels of stress. The bottom line is, this approach is not serving you.

Taking action will serve you.

If you have managed to identify the important 20%, then work on this… but even if you haven’t – start taking action… any action is better than no action at all.

When we are stressed, we don’t see the value in the small steps forward – we want a magic wand to sort it all out. Unfortunately, there is no magic wand and there is rarely a quick fix.

Think of this metaphor… The person is who wants to lose weight and get fit.

If this person goes on the scales after one gym session and a healthy breakfast, they will be disappointed… there won’t be any difference. In fact they probably still won’t notice a difference after a week of gym sessions and healthy eating either.

But those little actions DO make a difference… In fact they make ALL the difference!

Do you think that person will notice a difference after two weeks? A little maybe… how about a month? How about a year?

Of course there will be a massive difference – It is simple, but true.

This is the same with stress.

Take positive action consistently. You might not notice the difference immediately… but over time the transformation will become dramatic!

So, when you don’t know what action to take or don’t feel like taking action is worth it… do it anyway. Keep on taking positive action everyday.

Soon those small actions will build momentum – and momentum will make you unstoppable!

Create and use a support network

You are not alone.

stock-photo-large-group-of-people-seen-from-above-gathered-together-in-the-shape-of-two-hands-reaching-out-each-255266638You are not the only person to have experienced this level of stress.

Don’t face it alone. Today we are more connected than ever before, so we should use this to our advantage! Connect with other people who are facing similar struggles… or even better, connect with those that have overcome them!

Together we are stronger.

Seek out like-minded people who can support you, who can challenge you and who will need you to do the same. There are so many sources of information, inspiration, groups, coaches, networks out there – use them.

The strength of knowing that you are not alone, the power you gain from knowing that it can be overcome is immeasurable. You have access to this at your finger-tips:

Watch inspirational videos
Join discussion groups
Meet with follow professionals in your sector
Get a coach
Get a mentor
The list goes on…. just get some support!

Putting it all together:

Stress stops everything. It stops important internal processes and it stops you making good decisions and taking positive action.

Don’t let it. You can take control… Remove yourself from the situation, get some fresh air and fresh perspective. Work out what 20% of tasks you need to do to remove 80% of the stress levels.

TAKE ACTION and build momentum… And finally don’t forget to get some support – You are better working with others, allow yourself to be the best version of you.

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How To Deal with jealousy

I once knew this man who got jealous of his work colleagues every time they were rewarded, recognised, given extra responsibility or promoted.

Oh who am I kidding… that man was me.

I don’t know why, but at the time jealousy burned me up all of the time.

The problem is jealousy is an nasty creature – even when you try to hide it from others, it negatively impacts those around you.  

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Now I know you are probably not as bad as I was… but if you look closely you will likely find a hint of jealousy inside you about someone at work.

Does someone always get the credit? Who is that blue-eyed boy or girl that can’t do any wrong? I mean, you work just as hard as they do… probably harder… why aren’t you seen like they are?

Jealousy is a horrid thing, it creeps up on us and it serves NOBODY… especially not you.

Here is how to rid it from your life:

It’s not jealousy, it’s fear

Fear has lots of different disguises and jealousy is one of its favourites. In this form it will either be one of two things:

Personal insecurity or unfair comparison.

Either way it boils down to a fear that you are not good enough. Comparing yourself to others can be useful to measure progress, but when it is used to decide if you are worthy, it is venom.

Once you understand and take accountability that jealousy is really your fear, then you can identify what you are fearful of. Don’t avoid it… fear feeds off that.

Instead identify it and start making small steps to shrink it. The bottom line is that fear will always play a part in your life – how you respond is what defines you – will you let fear cause you pain or will you take responsibility and ensure you take your fears head on?

You deserve some credit… From yourself!

Do you give yourself credit for how amazing you are?

Take a moment to look back through your life… all the challenges, disappointments, successes and compliments… you have got through the tough times and you have created some good times.

That deserves some credit – That deserves some appreciation. Give yourself the recognition you deserve.

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When you give yourself permission to look back on your life and acknowledge how much you have been through and how special you truly are, then you will begin to worry less about others perceived achievements because you know you have achieved amazing things too.

Give genuine best wishes to all

Life is not about being better than anyone else… Life about being the best version of you.

Focus on development, focus on growth, focus on learning from others. When you do this you realise that you can learn from everyone and everything – and while you are learning you are getting better, which in turn gets you one step closer to being the best version of you.

The best version of you isn’t in competition with others – the best version of you wants everyone to do well. If someone gets a promotion over you… the best you would wish that person well and want to learn from them – not feel angry, jealous and sour inside.

You might think that this isn’t possible, because some people just don’t deserve success… I ask you, who is jealousy serving?

Does it make you feel good?
Does it stop the target of your jealousy?

Jealousy is like drinking poison and then hoping your enemy will die… It just doesn’t work!

You know that being happy for others and focusing your energy on personal growth is the better way forward – choose it.

Putting it all together

Jealousy is an ugly, hurtful feeling… which only effects you.

Look under the skin of jealousy and you will find fear and vulnerability – Identify this, accept this and face this. You can beat fear this way.

Also give yourself some well-earned credit – you have been through a lot and you are still going strong!

Finally, switch your focus from “they don’t deserve” to a “I must improve” mentality…

The ONLY thing you have in your control is your emotions, thoughts and actions… use them to benefit you, not to harm you!

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