Education. Job. Promotion. For What?

From the moment we are born we are sold and told a narrative about life.

This narrative is focused on preparing us for a future. A future of what is a successful life.

This story is told to us by everyone. By well-meaning parents, family and friends… Who themselves have all been influenced by the same things we have.

We are told that happiness is material. That success and fulfilment will be yours just if you have the right amount of money in your bank account…  specific car… a type of house… the lifestyle of a celebrity.

Just look at pretty much any TV advertisement, it will literally tell you that to be happy, cool or sexually attractive, you should purchase their product. Every major marketing campaign in the world attempt to show you that their product will improve the quality of your life and of how you feel.

You already know the problem… happiness, joy and success don’t come from a store

“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”

Pablo Picasso

We have taken what a successful life is and twisted and contorted it into about buying things… the more things we buy, the happier we will be… or so the story goes.

Therefore we need to follow the narrative we are told… Work hard at school to get good exam results, so you can get a good job, which you will have to work long hours and very hard for, so that one day you get a promotion or two, so that you have enough money to buy slightly nicer versions of the things you have.

FOR WHAT?

We spend so much of our lives preparing ourselves for “success”, yet success hasn’t even been defined by us!!

Does the narrative we follow create happiness, joy and fulfilment in our lives? Does happiness come from a job or an amount of money? Does it come from buying a new TV or the latest gadget?

Although a new job, a better car or a bit more money is nice… It doesn’t make me happy long-term.

In fact, I can recall a time my annual earnings were ten times LESS than they are right now… I wasn’t unhappy. If I’m totally honest I felt about as happy as I do now.

I believe that the only place we can find happiness and success is in the here and now.

What is the point of working towards what we are told is success, if it won’t actually create any  real fulfilment in your life.

I am not saying that you shouldn’t have goals, they are important. What I am saying is when you are dealing with feelings such as success, happiness and fulfilment, then you shouldn’t hope to find it in a new job, a better car or the latest gadget.

Success is a feeling. You can have that feeling right now, if you choose to.

Rather than chase a narrative that has been sold to you, about how life should be lived; instead ask yourself

“What do I have to do to feel totally and completely fulfilled?”

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Yes we need money, but when your time is up… How will you measure your life?

Will the cash in your bank account or the amount of time you immersed yourself in what you loved mean more?

Be the best version of you – It is the only true goal in life.

Why transforming your life is so damn difficult!

Every one of us, at some point in our lives, have wanted to change… To transform our lives and ourselves. Some of us are on that path for a lifetime…

Do you want to change your life right now?

If you desire more in your life, if you deserve more from yourself, then you are on a journey… Along that journey you will face adversity in many forms – Below are a list of the biggest challenges I have faced on my journey… and ones you will most likely face on yours. All can be overcome – if you are prepared for what you will face, you will be ready and able to fight through!

Uncertainty

“It is how we embrace uncertainty in our lives, that leads to the great transformation of our souls.”

Brandon Trean

When you first embark on this journey to transform your life – Those first steps will be frightening as you are moving into the unknown – you will have no idea what will happen.

None of us can control the future and stepping into the unknown is absolutely terrifying, no matter who you are. You can find solace in the fact, we will never be sure of our final destination. But what we can be sure of is the direction we steer ourselves each day. Take action towards your long-term goal and trust yourself… If you get blown off course, then adjust your steering back towards your goal.

Other people

The world has people who will tell you you can’t transform your life. These people will laugh and make fun, they won’t support you and they will think that you are foolish for wanting more.

Always remember these two things about this type of person:

bullying_by_zimsgirl123-d4bn9i51. They are the minority. Most people are kind and supportive. However, it probably won’t feel like it, because the haters in this world tend to be a lot louder than everyone else! That noise they make… it’s just hot air.

2. When people make fun of you for chasing big dreams and working to transform your life, it is because they are hurting. They have already given up on their dreams and the fact that you won’t give up, illuminates their own deficiencies to them… and that hurts, so they lash out.

The bottom line is, nobody can tell you that you can’t.

If you want it desperately enough, there is nothing you can’t achieve. Let the people who have already quit on their lives, say what they want… You determine your life, nobody else.

Vulnerability

Showing vulnerability was, for me personally, one of the most petrifying things I have ever done.

When you share your hopes, dreams and values it will feel nerve-racking and dangerous. This is because things that are most important to you are also heavily protected by you. Putting your authentic self on display takes real bravery – bravery that is necessary if you are to ever get the life you desire.

What I can share with you is that once you pluck up the courage to show vulnerability, the feelings you get back are amazing, joyful and empowering.

It is hard work

do-you-know-the-real-value-of-hard-workReal change means you have to learn and grow.

There is one universal truth about learning and growth – Along the way there will be failures, rejections, personal sacrifice and you will require bucket loads of determination.

Of course transforming your life comes with positive factors… Like living the life of your dreams.

But you already know this – that’s why you push for more – that’s why you read blog posts like this.

When you live your life as the best version of you… life takes on a whole new dimension of success and fulfilment. Living your dream is possible, just be ready for the challenges on the way.