The Moronic Manager – How to Coach Your Team

This video is a little different from most of my content – Over the years I have discovered that observing how NOT to do things can accelerate our learning and growth, so this video series, called “The Moronic Manager” is aimed at having a bit of fun while also providing some inspiration and helpful ideas…

Hope you like it!

The concept idea was taken from another YouTube creator at screen rant called “Pitch Meetings”. If you like the format and like movies, then check it out via this link: https://www.youtube.com/pitchmeetings

How to 10x your coaching productivity

There are 4 specific skills to coaching, that you are probably not using that will 10x the results you get from coaching your team or your clients.

Coaching is a highly skilled process and required if need to improve the performance of those around you, yet most people haven’t been trained on it and coaching seems to be one of those things that people think they understand, yet absolutely suck when it!

Or you have the people that have done a bit of research or many attended a course and only apply the one thing they learnt… which leads ends up being a poor coaching experience too

Don’t get me wrong… if you want to be a high quality coach, then invest in training… the more you understand and practice, the better you will become.

However what I want to share with you today is the four specific skills in coaching… that you are probably not using AND will 10x your effectiveness:

 

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How to make a positive impact on everyone you meet

I always used to get very anxious about wanting to make a good impression with everyone I met.

My anxiety made me nervous, sleepless and stopped me being my natural self.

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Leadership is about adding value… How do you stack up?

Leadership has evolved over the last 10 years dramatically. The methods used decades ago simply just don’t stack up anymore.

The understanding of what great leadership is growing amongst followers around the globe… They expect and deserve more from their leaders.

If you want to keep up, then you have to add real and tangible value to those around you… this video shares some ideas on how:

How to make difficult conversations easy

“He has asked me for a pay rise and I just don’t know how to say no.”

This was what I was asked in a coaching session earlier today. The person I was coaching is an established, credible and senior leader within her company.

The fact is, no matter what leadership level you sit on, difficult conversations are… difficult.

We will all encounter difficult conversations within our lifetimes, whether we are in a leadership role or not. So it is best to be prepared when they ultimately arrive in your life!

Here are four simple ideas, that if implemented successfully, will improve the output of any difficult conversation you have to orchestrate:

Remove Emotion

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The number one factor of why difficult conversations turn into a verbal car-crash is… Being emotionally driven.

By definition, a challenging conversation will be emotive for at least one person (probably both people). As the instigator of the conversation, you will have adrenaline coursing through your veins. Your emotions will feel like they have just stepped up a gear, as your body goes into “fight or flight” mode. This is not helpful.

What is helpful is to, in a calm and mindful manner, focus on the facts. Rather than focusing our energy into how we feel. By doing this, the conversation has a good chance of remaining factual and real.

Reality is vital if you want a positive outcome to the discussion!

The single best way to lower your emotional levels before a difficult conversation – Preparation.

Understand the facts and rehearse the conversation. Physically practise saying what you want to say. The more you practise, the better you will get and the less emotional you will feel! Therefore, even if you have adrenaline pumping through your veins at the moment of truth, you will still be able to deliver the facts in a calm manner… because you have rehearsed it perfectly.

Also, it is powerful to rehearse the conversation with a focus on service.

When the conversation priority is a positive outcome for all concerned (not just a positive outcome for you!), you will have to alter your style and become less defensive. This approach has great benefits – it will lower the defences of the person you are talking to, thus lowering their emotional levels and it will enable you to talk in a frank and factual way, without it appearing as an attack.

A good strategy for a difficult conversation!

Understand you don’t know everything

You only know your facts… that is all.

When you understand this, it will allow you to focus on conclusions rather than delivery.

What I mean by this is that it is far better to be focused on a positive outcome, rather than being singularly focused on getting your side of the story heard.

So many people go into difficult conversations, bursting to say their piece. Bursting so much that it gets fired out like a machine gun… a surefire way to ruin the rest of the conversation.

If you enter the conversation with your main priority as a positive action resulting from it… then you will be more likely to listen… you will be more likely to understand… and you will be more receptive to the right course of action.

“If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”

Henry Ford

 

Make sure your facts are facts

This is the oldest advice in the book of giving feedback, but there is a very good reason for this… because it is true!

The bottom line – Your facts have to have been observed and checked by you, if not you are setting yourself up to fail. The moment you rely on second hand information, the conversation will spiral out of control.

Again this is why preparation is so important. If you don’t do your homework properly, you are asking for trouble.

Give time and space

a_god_of_time_and_space__remake__by_cherryorchid-d6xum80.pngI have seen people utilse all the advice above, but then all that great work is destroyed with this common mistake… a tight time limit on the conversation.

You can make great strides, but if you have to cut the meeting off because of something else you have booked in to do, then you may as well not have bothered starting the discussion.

To rectify this you should plan and prepare for the discussion to go twice as long as you anticipate. If it is difficult for you, then it is difficult for them. Show them respect by giving them the time and space they need. They probably haven’t done all the preparation you have, so give them the opportunity to work through it properly.

If you do this, you automatically get two benefits:

  1. Shows that you are interested in them and a positive outcome, which will reduce their emotional levels.
  2. Allows autonomy – You give the person the time to come up with the right response, through their own judgement rather than emotion – 99.9% of the time they will develop a brilliant solution.

Putting it all together

We will all have to face difficult conversations in our lives… and they are going to be difficult!

You can make them much easier if you plan and prepare

  1. Remove the emotion, rehearse and aim to serve.
  2. You don’t know everything, so focus on outcome rather than saying your bit.
  3. Ensure your facts have been observed by you.
  4. Give time and space to work it through properly.

How To Set Massive Goals & Get Them To Stick

Have you ever wanted to improve something in your life?

Have you found it difficult to create lasting change?

You are not alone… Being able to create goals that you follow through on is difficult.

However there are some fantastic strategies that can rapidly accelerate your progress. In this video, I share what I have learnt about goal setting – These ideas have transformed my life and hopefully they can help you to:

 

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Is It Possible To Measure Your Potential?

In a previous career years ago, I was informed that I was a high potential employee. I was over the moon… 

But it then turned to disaster – the following year I was told that I had low potential. Obviously I was devastated.

The story then took another twist – A further twelve months later I was advised I had become a high potential employee again!

My potential was a rollercoaster ride and I couldn’t understand why.

The company I worked in had devised a succinct formula for potential, with clear definitions and criteria. During all three years I had been measured on this clear criteria and I had displayed consistent behaviours.

So what had changed?

Simply put:                     The people who decided my potential.

Here in lies the problem. Potential, no matter how clearly defined and articulated, will be perceived in vastly different ways by the individuals in that company. It is all about perspective… Which becomes a limiting factor to people reaching their potential! 

The facts are no formula for potential will ever overcome an individuals perspective. There are many reasons why this is the case. One of which is because potential is the future – it hasn’t been realised yet – potential is therefore completely unknown!

So, if we can’t predict the future, how can we ever get it right?

I suggest we should take a different approach. I suggest we should stop trying to guess other people’s potential, because it will automatically limit more people’s growth than enable it… and also, who are we to decide what someone else can or can’t do??? That is presumptuous and arrogant!

I suggest we should take this approach instead:

Assume that EVERYONE has unlimited potential.

Assume EVERYONE has the capacity to be great.

kezdo_tgyThis way everyone has an equal opportunity. Therefore we create an environment that enables everyone and limits nobody. Then potential is left to each individual. The people who reach their potential in this environment will be those who take the most action, those who dare to be great, those who recover from failure quickly and dedicate themselves to self improvement.

It then becomes significantly easier to manage potential. Rather than guessing who has it and who doesn’t – Purposely provide EVERYONE the environment to reach for their potential.

Create opportunities for all to flourish. Reward personal development and growth over achievement. Allow failure and encourage creativity.

Then those that reach high, those that strive, are those that have realised their potential. No Guessing required!

“Talent will only get you so far, to become great it takes hours and hours of beating on your craft”

Will Smith

Create the right environment and you will find many more people that exhibit the following:

Do What It Takes:

0c736ccDriven individuals are determined to become the best version of themselves. This will be more important to them than looking good and getting fast results the wrong way. Instead it is about challenging themselves everyday. Success to these people isn’t a destination… success is a daily habit.

Not Afraid Of Failure:

People who will perceive failure as an opportunity to learn rather than damaging to long-term success. These people won’t waste energy blaming others or licking their wounds. Rather they will analyse the mistakes and work out how to eliminate them in the future.

This means they will be bold and brave – The way to greatness.

Putting it all together:

Potential is unknown and it is arrogant to think some people have it and others don’t. Everyone is capable of amazing things – It is the action they take that will define them.

Don’t guess who has potential and who doesn’t. Instead create the environment where all have the opportunity to take action and you will discover that you have more ‘High Potential’ employees than you realised!

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4 Excuses For Quitting And 4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t

I have spent the last 19 months of my life writing a leadership book – And then when it was pretty much ready to be published, I stopped.

I stopped taking action and I gave myself loads of “reasons” why.

Of course these reasons were just excuses… Here is why I stopped taking action and the reasons why I shouldn’t. If you have aimed for a goal, been making progress, then felt like quitting… maybe this could help:

Fear

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear”

Jack Canfield

I hate to admit it, but the main reason I stopped was due to fear – fear people might not like my book, fear that people might laugh, fear that I might not be any good. Looking at it logically it is likely that some people wouldn’t like my work or me… but it wouldn’t be everyone and it shouldn’t be something that I should be fearful of. 

But that didn’t stop me being afraid.

Fear, essentially is a powerful metabolic function, that is designed to protect us from danger. So when genuine threats come along we change our behaviour so we can survive – behaviours such as running away, hiding or freezing.

The bottom line is that, no matter what, fear is going to play a part in your life. It is how we manage it that makes all the difference.

We can do this by creating leverage and developing our mindset.

Leverage –  Purposely create the thought process that the act of quitting will be a more painful experience than the possible results of taking action.

To do this you will need to write, in as much detail as possible, how awful your life will be if you don’t take action towards your goals. Do this over various timeframes, for example how horrible your life will be next week, in one year and in five years.

Completing this simple process will shift your minds focus and perspective, transforming your energy towards taking positive action.

Mindset – Are the goals you have set yourself fixed or growth goals? If you have lots of fixed goals (a fixed goal is a goal that has an end point and is ridged in the success criteria) then you are not be setting yourself up for success.

The reason why is with any fixed goal there will always be factors out of your control, this can then create frustration, fear and disappointment. All of which will direct you towards quitting.

A growth goal on the other hand does set you up for success. Growth goals are about continuous development and growth, both of these factors are within your control… You can grow, develop and learn everyday if you so desired.  This will help remove the fear you feel, because each step of the goal is now fully achievable, so you can continue to progress towards your goals with more control.

I don’t know what to do

question-markIn my example, this surfaced with publishing – should I go through an established publisher or self publish? There are benefits for both – and there are negatives.

A publisher will do most of the work for you in getting your book on sale, but at a very high cost, which would mean literally no profits from my book (unless by some miracle I became a multimillion selling hit!). Self publishing means I would make more money per book sale, but I would have to learn how to publish! 

I didn’t know what to do, so I did nothing.

This is one of the easiest excuses to make – because the truth is, there will be times when we don’t know what to do!

An ultra affective strategy in this situation is to role model from those people who have already done what you need to do.

Go onto any  internet search engine and type in what you want to learn or become and, as quick as a flash, you will have a reservoir of resource, from world-class experts, at your fingertips.

Don’t make the excuse that you don’t know what to do – instead put it on your ‘to-do list’ to find out what you should do!

Don’t have the energy

After writing my book, I got distracted by day to day hassles and problems. In fact I got so involved in the daily struggles, that even when I had the time to focus on my book, I felt so tired, that I couldn’t face more work.

This is a common problem… Most people fail to chase their dreams because they have busy lives and this gets in the way of achieving real quality. After a tough day being busy most of us want to relax and “un-plug” rather than chase our big life goals.

Here are two strategies to combat fatigue:

1 . Prioritise the important. Very simply, your vision, your destiny or your dream should be the most important goal in your life. So make it the first thing you do. Build in the time and make your big life goals the priority and focus on these first!

2 . Take care of your physiology. Are you drinking enough water? Are you eating healthy, energy providing foods? Are you committing to a productive exercise routine? If you look after your physiology, you will have more energy – Obvious, but true!

I don’t have the time

bigstock_Turn_Back_Time_10456We are all so busy. We live in the most fast-paced, ever-changing and hectic time in human history. Pretty much everyone struggles for time. It is an almost foolproof excuse for quitting on our personal goals and dreams… That is one of the things I told myself about publishing my book!

Yet, if we are absolutely honest – do we use all the time we have available to us, effectively?

Just think about the amount of time each day you spend looking at a screen… Television, phone, laptop, tablet…

Is this a productive use of our time? 

If you want to have enough time to achieve amazing things do this: Stop using any social media and TV (this includes programs on the internet!) for 30 days and instead use that time to take action on your goals.

In 30 days I guarantee you will be amazed at how much progress you make in achieving your goals. I also guarantee, if you can do the 30 days, that you won’t miss TV and the internet half as much as you imagine you will!

Final thoughts

If you follow through and take the required action everyday towards your goal, then eventually you will get there!

Yet sometimes rather than committing to keep moving forward, we create an internal story that tells us to quit. 

These stories can seem compelling, but the truth is, they are excuses. Challenge yourself to take action even when you feel scared, don’t know what to do, don’t have the energy or don’t have the time.

If you do you can achieve your goals – Like I did… My book will be published later in the year!

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