What would you do for a job if you didn’t need the money?
I think that when we explore this question fully, we can discover our true passion and what we are destined to do…
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Autonomy and leadership are words that are often linked together when people discuss what a great leader means to them… Yet in reality it doesn’t materialise. In fact, do most leaders even know what autonomy is?
In this video, we will find out:
Almost everyone has, at some point, been hurt, rejected, dismissed and treated badly. When this happens many of us then find it hard to believe and trust in people again.
If you have ever felt like this, then here are 4 strategies that will allow you to stay positive and get the best out of all of your relationships... Even if it seems as though you are surrounded by people who have hurt you, let you down or broken your heart.
The science is clear… Trust and connection are critical factors in human existence. This is not my opinion, this is proven scientific fact. We are literally biologically forced to connect with others, because we are stronger together.
If you allow a few people to make you lose faith in that, then you are only hurting yourself.
Branding the entire human race as cruel and nasty because of a few people is ridiculous. Think about it… there are 7 billion people on this planet – all of which have a biological need to connect with others. Don’t let a couple of idiots ruin your perception of how many great people there are in the world.
We only ever get to see our perspective of life and it is easy to think we are alone in our struggle. The truth is everyone struggles.
Some find it hard just to get through the day, others are frustrated because they can’t chase their dreams, many are worried about how they can support their families, scared of what others think about them. The lists are endless, but the ultimate truth is that everybody is struggling somehow.
It is so important that you understand this. If you ever get to a place where you think your situation is so special and unique that nobody can ever understand you – You are in a bad place and, more importantly, you are wrong. You have more in common with others than you realise.
By saying that nobody could ever understand you, all you are doing is freezing yourself out of relationships.
If you freeze yourself out, then nobody will understand you because you won’t let them, NOT because they can’t. That is your doing… not theirs.
Once you have been hurt, it is tempting to create emotional barriers and walls to stop you getting hurt again.
Been hurt in love? Create barriers that make it difficult for you to fall in love again… so in theory, you won’t get hurt again.
Hopefully you can see the problem with this tactic. Barriers and walls stop you feeling positive and wonderful emotions. Emotions you need and desire.
Barriers and walls keep the bad guys out, but they also fend off the good guys too.
Walls solve nothing, they just deny you what you want most and they also hurt other people… good people.
The brave thing to do is to brake down your walls and allow yourself to live. I can’t promise you that you will never get hurt again, but by allowing those positive emotions in, it does mean you will experience 10x the love, joy, happiness and trust than you would if you lock everything out.
Most people have walls… break down yours, break down theirs… with love, with joy, with trust and your life will become abundant.
This last strategy is so simple, but also the most effective – Remove negative people from your life and increase the amount of positive people.
Positive people are supportive, caring and helpful… There are billions of these types of people across the world, literally billions!
They will help you grow, develop and become the best version of you, so seek them out.
Yes there are mean people in the world, but they are not the majority… You don’t have to have them in your life. It is a choice, make one that improves the quality of your life.
There are mean people and when you get hurt, it is tempting to turn your back on the world and lose trust in people.
Don’t, mean people are in the minority.
You have a biological need to connect with others – If you deny yourself this, you are only hurting yourself.
You are not the only person who is struggling. Understanding this truth will allow you to have more empathy for those around you.
Stop building walls – You deny yourself the emotions you most desire when you create barriers – don’t deny yourself love, joy, happiness and trust.
Choose to build relationships with positive people. There are loads of them out there!
Have you ever been making good progress on a project or goal and then all of a sudden you lose your motivation?
It happens to almost everybody at some point in their lives… The bigger challenge is being able to get your mojo back quickly!
In this video I share how to do exactly that – get motivated and moving quickly again, with these ideas:
Rosa Parks, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther-King – They are great people who have etched their names in history books for standing up for what they believed in and they helped change the world in the process.
We are told powerful stories about special individuals who changed the course of the world by standing against status quo – sometimes facing unsurmountable odds, yet ultimately winning though.
We are told everyone has this power. We are told we too can change the world if our resolve is strong enough… but can we?
I mean these stories sound compelling, yet in your life right now, can you make a stand? Let’s start small… can you go up against the boss at work and not damage your career?
Going a bit bigger… Can you legitimately challenge those in positions of authority, such as politicians, without being removed or arrested?
I think we can, but not in the way the stories would lead you to believe.
Standing up for what you believe in is not a single event, it’s a way of living – It would be impossible to make a huge stand for what you believe to be right in one moment, if your actions in the past didn’t back you up.
Standing up for what is right, is living what is right. It is in your everyday behaviours and actions.
1. Clearly understand what you believe in
2. Share this with everyone
3. Make sure everything you do is linked to this
So if you passionately believe in ‘being honest’ … then communicate this value simply and with clarity… then follow it up by making sure you always tell the truth!
It is a simple example, but hopefully it demonstrates the power of being able to stand up for what you believe in – because if this is how you live your life, then it is easy to challenge the status quo when needed, because everyone will expect it!
This of course has it’s challenges, but what it allows you to be is authentic, strong and value led.
If you don’t live your life by these rules, then you will end up living your life by someone else’s. That is the opposite of standing up for what is right.
Be the best version of you – stand up for you believe in… stand up for what is right.
We all need motivation in our lives.
The more motivated we are, the more we can achieve.
Yet, most of us don’t utilise the biggest secret on how to get ultra motivated, quickly and powerfully…
In this video, I share that secret:
To become the best leader you can be, you will need to be brave enough to put your current leadership up against a mirror.
However, most leaders don’t bother. They think there is little else to learn… They are wrong.
Last weekend I had the privilege to speak at a conference about motivation and as always I stuck around to see the whole event. I was struck by this companies culture, they were progressive, enabling and it appeared as though they had a highly engaged team. They challenged their leadership culture openly – with the desire to improve as the main priority.
This demonstration of leadership behaviours highlighted an unconformable truth. Cultures and leaders like this are rare…. Really rare.
How many senior leaders do you know that openly practise and develop their understanding of the science of human motivation?
They are literally an endangered species.
“Enlightened leadership is awareness where we experience values like truth, goodness, compassion and also intuition, creativity and focused attention”
Even in our enlightened world, the most common approach you will experience from a leaders is, “This is want I need from you.”
Most leaders ask for more, demand more, without giving to their employees. Leaders want more, faster, cheaper and they want it now.
Sometimes they might even throw in a financial incentive (Which has been proven to worsen performance when partaking in complex tasks – as proven by hundreds of social science experiments!)
So think about this for a moment – Most leaders will ask their followers for improved performance and then provide them with an incentive that is a performance inhibitor!
Now take a look at your own leadership – Is your approach a “this is what I need from you” one? Do you provide your followers with tools and strategies that support or inhibit them? How do you even know?
The world is changing and so are followers. Back in the time of the dinosaurs, a leader was seen as powerful and strong if they demanded more. Dinosaurs are extinct and so should be that type of leader.
Followers are demanding a new type of leader. A leader who is enlightened, a leader who understands social science, who understands intrinsic motivation and has the approach of “This is what I will be for my followers.”
The absolute final truth about your leadership ability is in the hand of your followers. It is the ONLY factor that counts – Your followers decide if you are a leader, nobody else.
As a follower – What type of leader would you want to be lead by?
You will find that your answer gives you clues to the leader you need to become.
What is leadership, if it is not about creating the optimum environment for followers to be successful?
Think about YOUR leadership – Do you demand more from yourself in providing the conditions for your followers to flourish?
Be a true leader, be a progressive leader… be an enlightened leader. It is what the world needs now.
Stress is known to be a major contributor to many terminal illnesses – Stress is literally killing us.
In the video, I share my ideas on how to deal with stress and improve the quality of your life:
Why do we determine success as attaining things we don’t currently have?
I mean that’s really weird right? Saying ‘I will be successful when… I get… or this happens..’
That means success is always in the future and if we have programmed ourselves this way, then even if we achieve our original goal, it wouldn’t mean we are successful – Success will have just moved on to another destination.
We always tell ourselves the same story – when we finally arrive at ‘success’, our lives will be great, be so much easier, be so much happier.
We are literally telling ourselves a fairytale.
Take a moment to think about the story we tell ourselves – Life currently has its struggles, but you will persevere and work hard, then one happy day you will graduate and be ‘successful’. At this point life suddenly becomes easy, you will have more fun and you will be happier.
Does that sound like real life? Do you really think that happens to anyone?
Sorry to bust the bubble, but that story is simply just not true.
Success is not a destination, it never has been and never will be. There is no arrival – You will have challenges and difficulties no matter what. That is just life.
Success does exist though. It is in the actions you take everyday to become a better version of you. Success lives in the now, it lives in your development, it lives in your actions.
So if you desire success then there is only one question to answer – Will you choose the discipline required to take hold of the now, to live in the now, to improve yourself now?
The discipline to act in the now, is what creates your destiny. Discipline is what will make you the best version of you.
If you don’t choose the discipline of the now, then you will experience only one possible outcome – Regret.
I choose discipline – I want to say at the end of my life that I gave it everything I have had. I cannot tolerate the thought of holding regret… of saying ‘what if’.
I urge you to choose discipline too.
Success is not a destination. Success is right now, in the actions you take. Choose to be the best version of you.
Have you ever wanted to improve something in your life?
Have you found it difficult to create lasting change?
You are not alone… Being able to create goals that you follow through on is difficult.
However there are some fantastic strategies that can rapidly accelerate your progress. In this video, I share what I have learnt about goal setting – These ideas have transformed my life and hopefully they can help you to: