Most of us will follow a script of what we think we should do. The problem is, this script probably hasn’t been written by you.
We often find that our script for life has been written by society, well-meaning parents and the constant barrage of marketing, that is stuffed down our throats informing us what a successful life is. (This of course will include purchasing the particular product they are selling!).
This doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t follow this script, if this is what you truly want out of life. However if the script you’re living isn’t linked to your passion, values and purpose then you will be more prone to negative outcomes such as stress, depression and a feeling of emptiness.
“Success based on anything but internal fulfilment is bound to be empty”
Dr. Martha Friedman
To prove the point, take a moment to think of your life. Have you ever chased a goal that you thought would make you successful? Then once you achieved that goal and the initial excitement dispersed, you were left feeling empty inside asking ‘is this it?’
That is you chasing something that you have been told is success, rather than following your own script.
We all have the opportunity to work out our own script, if we take some time and space for ourselves and ask the following questions:
‘Where am I in my life today?’
‘Where do I want to go?’
‘What will make my life exceptional, magnificent and completely fulfilled?’
When we give ourselves the time to ask ourselves these simple, but deep questions, we will often see a distinct difference in the goals we have and the goals we want.
Please take a moment to think about the questions above. You will probably discover that the answers describe feelings, beliefs and values.
If there is a secret, then this is it! What we are all seeking is a specific set of feelings, that are as unique and as special as the individual you are.
The problem with following a life script, that is designed by the media and popular culture, is that it focuses on false success measures. We blindly hope that chasing what we are told to, will bring the feelings of fulfilment, success and joy that we desire so much.
The truth is achievement of a false goal will rarely bring fulfilment. That is what happened to me. I spent a long time believing the script we are told… that I would be happy if I had that next job, if I had a certain amount of money, if I won that award.
I achieved all of those goals and when I did I realised it hadn’t made me happy. In fact it made what was missing in my life even more apparent and obvious.
I implore you not to make the same mistake I did. It is never too late to seek fulfilment, so no matter what is happening in your life right now, no matter how far down a road you have gone… you can change your future. You can live life on your terms and be successful and fulfilled.
Your past does not define your future. Your actions right now do.
I changed my life. What I have found is that this is very personal and feels extremely vulnerable. But it is the most amazing thing that will ever happen when you do it.
Take some time and give some space to you. Take a look inside and ask some deep questions… What is my gift? What is my purpose? What is my destiny? How can I contribute more?
When I asked these questions, I discovered that what lights me up is creating an environment that allows those around me to think differently and the opportunity to reach their potential. I believe that everyone is capable of amazing things. I just want to help anyone who wants support to achieve that.
I now live everyday focused on this goal and I have never been happier or more fulfilled. If I can do it, then you can too. Have faith in you.
The harsh truth is success without fulfilment is failure.
Everyone at some-point discovers this. Take action on your personal fulfilment now, become the person you want to be.